Ashley.
Sorry to hear about the way you were treated.....perhaps the doc does not think surgery is a good idea, but telling you that you have just seen too many docs is straight up rude!!
I do think that surgery should always be approached with caution. Once they cut.....things are never the same. I had a friend who had 5 redo lumbar fusions....she was miserable for 3 years straight, and still has some problems. I am not saying this would happen, but I would definitley look at up and down side.
I truly think that my addison's is coming from a pituitary problem from pregnancy. The reason that I mention this is that I can (now periodically) feel the damage in my head....I swear.
The pituitary is at the bottom of a stalk, below the hypothalmus. The blood supply there is venous, and very fragile. (think how varicose veins in legs can get engouraged and tortuous.....blood supply around pituitary is similar.) WHat happens with pregnancy, is that the pituitary grows (just like your stomach), if you have massive blood loss associated with pregnancy, then the blood supply to the enlarged pituitary is compromised, so the cells in the pituitary atrophy or die....sometimes the damage does not show up until years later. This is sheehan's syndrome. I am almost positive that this is in part my issue. Why? Because I can feel it. Sometimes I feel as though that stalk and fragile vasculature just collapse and I feel the weight of my brain sitting on the bony structures....incredibly uncomfortable pressure.
The reason that I bring this up is because with surgery, they are cutting right in that area. If there is not a fair degree of confidence, that you will not be left with side effect from the surgery, AND that it is likely to help, I want you to be careful.
I do not want to frustrate you, but as you mentioned....maybe God has a plan. So keep an open mind, ask questions...get a couple of opinions.
Dusty mentioned that you have had lots of trouble managing your meds, and had asked if the pituitary tumor might be related. What kind of trouble have you had?
Did you ever have head trauma (or blood loss during pregnancy)?
By the way....I can definitely relate to wanting to have a surgical fix. Every since i have started to go through this....I have almost hoped for a tumor or something they can just cut out. Sadly, I think that is unlikely.
I am very interested in what (the good) doctors say. and am hoping you all the best, whatever the outcome.
Shannon